Are you going through something in your life that you are aware of but find it hard to understand, define or explain? Do you feel like you’re changing but don’t know exactly how? Often when change is happening at really deep levels, we don’t have the words to communicate it to others. There are a couple of reasons for this:
- The area of our brain that processes deeply doesn’t have a linear sense of time or language. It is emotional, instinctive and has the ability to share only by using analogies and visual imagery. Hence, we often have dreams when we are at a crossroads, when we’re confronted by “big stuff”. Or we sleep so deeply that we don’t even recall our dreams, but our sleep feels different. We may also experience a phase where we’re not sleeping, and we’re waking up in the middle of the night so we find that we are tired, or even weary.
- When we are experiencing a period of intense stress, we are likely triggered by something from our past, even from our early childhood, and we encounter our young inner selves. These Parts could not understand what happened to them or to give it language. So, often when we experience the same emotional environment, we too lose the ability to express ourselves clearly.
Transformation is different from the stress of going through a hard circumstance. It’s not a given or a foregone conclusion that we will evolve or transform following a difficult period. We may simply persevere through or survive the challenges, but not necessarily grow from it. The way I define transformation is deep, core “up-levelling” of our system. Our way of thinking, believing and therefore being, shifts to a higher vibration. Sometimes our external situations also change. We move homes, change jobs or professions, and perhaps even have new relationships. Our friends may fall away, and more aligned communities emerge. All the circumstances in our life are up for a reboot! This can be SCARY. You can feel like a fish out of water, disconnected, shut down, even angry or sad. Grief can be a part of the process and can take us inward where it feels difficult to connect with others. Both the experience of being in a challenging situation and going through a transformation can feel difficult. We may feel some part of our life is threatened. Going through something like that is hard, even terrifying. The difference is whether you’re going to try to be THE SAME YOU that created the situation or whether you are willing to and able to endure doing the internal work to MAKE A SHIFT HAPPEN!! If you choose to do the work, it will feel different. It may not be easy but you won’t be trying to manage or control the outside. You will lean in and look on the inside. Know Thyself, Love Thyself are the words to live by here. Simple but not easy.
Transformation is a rebirth. There is a light at the end of the tunnel!
You will re-emerge, you will be stronger internally and externally and a whole new life can enfold. YOU CAN DO IT, YOU WILL DO IT!
“It’s your road and yours alone, others may walk it with you but no one can walk it for you.” – Rumi
Peace and Love,
Anarah